Being rejected is basically 50% of dating. Or is it less than that? Maybe even more? Well, now you can find out exactly how much percentage you are getting rejected, though how good that is, is probably up to the individual to decide.
If you’ve ever been rejected over text then you will remember the familiar sting that comes with it. Would it be better to have a clue which way it was going to go to, and if so would that actually soften the blow if we could mentally prepare ourselves for the impending rejection?
Texting is without a doubt easier for the person doing the actual rejecting. They don’t have to see your reaction or pain face to face; therefore it’s a bit less of a consequence if they can’t see it. There’s no real awkwardness, unless of course you ring them over and over again demanding answers.
Some people don’t even have the courage to send that text. That’s what is known in the world of dating as ‘ghosting’. Ghosting is dating someone for a while maybe three or four dates, or maybe even one, and then just cutting contact as though any form of communication ever existed and they are a perfect stranger to you. It is quite cruel. At least be brave enough to send a text!
The Study
Research from over 2,000 men (2,454 to be precise), has given data and statistics on:
- How likely it is that they would get a first date from text interactions,
- How likely it is that, that first date turned into a second date and,
- How they would most likely be rejected.
This research was based on people who were currently in a texting ‘relationship’ with a girl they were interested in dating. So they may have met, or met on a dating app or through a friend. Dating apps are quite common in this day and age and certainly play a part in making it easier to reject people as you please. All you have to do is swipe in a certain direction on some apps, and the person is gone never to bother you again. Straight up, stone cold, rejection.
It is not clear whether dating apps were taken into consideration; however it is safe to assume that a texting relationship could have easily come about as a result of ‘matching’ with each other online.
The Results
- 769 men had not even asked the girl to go out dating. No date had been planned. 35% of these men had already been rejected in some form or another, for example the girl had already started to ignore them completely.1,685 had asked the question, but only 522 of them actually got a date after they had asked. Dating was successful. That is less than half!Only 31% of men who asked the girl they were interested in going out dating, actually got a date.29% of the men who were rejected were rejected outright, with no alternative date suggested by the girl in question.47% of men were rejected with no reply whatsoever for their question.
24% of men who asked their female out on a date were told that they would rather be friends – i.e. ‘friend zoned’.
A very small 13% of the original 2,454 were still continuing texting after actually managing to secure a first date.
The first hurdle usually happens in dating sites, i.e., actually securing a first date, appears to be the hardest hurdle to jump. There are bound to be many reasons for this, maybe the girl was bored or just being polite in accepting the male’s number. Perhaps she was intoxicated and didn’t feel accountable for agreeing to start a texting relationship back and forth and, therefore, doesn’t treat it as seriously as the other party involved may be. She perhaps went through to some facts that proved to be true.
After a first date it seems, even harder to secure a second date. This is the natural way of things; sometimes people meet properly in a date type environment and just don’t hit it off! Either it is too awkward, or something as trivial as they notice something about the other person that really annoys them and gets under their skin! Humans really can be quite shallow sometimes! Surely we’ve all sat opposite a loud chewer and though, not for me thank you.
Online daters most common way of rejecting a first date was to ignore the question all together. This isn’t quite ghosting, but it is close enough to be classed as equally as cold. If the girl ever supplied a reason, it must be based on a reliable facts. It is merely wasn’t recorded in the results of the study. Many may be too embarrassed to admit what happened.
Though this is geared towards females rejecting males, it is without a doubt happening the other way around as well. It would be interesting to see the statistics when it comes to the ways in which men reject woman. Women online daters must learn to cope up rejections. In fact, it would be interesting to see if women even ask men out at all or if the stigma around that tradition still exists.
